Once upon a time I used to be that person who lived by “do me, I do you.” You can't do me wrong and I will let it slide? No way, I must revenge in one way or the other.I’d find a way to pay you back small or big, you must feel it.

At first, it feels good like justice served hot. Until God began to school me:

"Vengeance is Mine; I will repay.” — Romans 12:19


I then realise i have been sipping bitterness like morning tea .🙃


But guess what? Revenge doesn’t heal you; it drains you. It robs your peace, poisons your love, and keeps you stuck in yesterday.

Revenge is like reheating last week’s rice hoping it tastes fresh. It never does and you might get food poisoning.

When I lived by “do me I do you,” I thought I was teaching lessons. But the truth was humbling: I was the one who never graduated from bitterness class. When I finally loosened my grip, I found that forgiveness didn’t make the offense disappear ...it made me bigger than the offense. I slept better, laughed more, loved deeper, and discovered patience is not passivity, it’s power under restraint.


Revenge feels righteous at first. It fuels you with heat, clarity, and a sense of control. But long-term, it’s a bully in disguise: it robs you of peace, steals your joy, and makes you smaller than the person who hurt you.


It anchors you to the past. Every replay of the hurt rewires your heart to live in yesterday, you stop growing because you’re stuck rehearsing the offense.


It consumes your emotional strength. Anger and plotting take up space that could be used for hope, creativity, and relationships.


It stains your identity. You become known for your retaliation instead of your character.


It damages your health. Chronic anger raises stress, affects sleep, and can hurt your body,your immune system, heart, and mind pay the price.


It prolongs the wound — sometimes making the offender feel less guilty, and you more bitter.



And because I like to keep it real:

Revenge also often backfires. It escalates conflicts, destroys trust, damages reputations, and sometimes brings legal or social consequences you never wanted.


If you’re reading this and clinging to revenge like it’s oxygen .....try one tiny step today. Tell God your hurt. Write a letter you’ll never send. Call a friend. Walk away from the argument. Take back your peace.


Forgiveness isn’t weakness it’s strength under control. When you let God handle it, He settles better than you ever could.


Now I choose peace. I laugh more, love deeper, and sleep like a baby because no offense is worth my sanity.


Moral of the story: Don’t waste your life trying to “do them back.” Let God do His job, and go live yours.